“Married” people can range from enemies trying to make each other’s lives miserable, to activity partners who happen to live together, to someone you are madly in love with and want to start a family with. ” This is actually a “good” case where the difference in definition is apparent before legally binding stuff occurs.
So when you figure out if you really want to be married, also make it clear to yourself what being married means to you. What if this conversation happens with one person wanting kids and the other not after they are married for a while?
Since it took you only 2 months (about 160 hours) to find this suboptimal relationship, you have essentially lost the chance for about 12 other potential candidates!
(It’s not as black and white as this as we’ll discuss in the where to find a husband / wife section) Of course, this doesn’t mean you won’t enter into relationships that do satisfy your list and find out later that your list isn’t quite complete.
Well, that doesn’t require an actual “legal” marriage! Once you’ve figured out what a marriage entails (so that you know what to ask a potential husband / wife), the question is who to ask!
Do you want an activity partner that you have sex with once in a while (this is not necessarily separate from the person you want to spend your life with)? Keep in mind that “being married” is just a label, like “dating”, or “girlfriend”.
In this case, the problem is “You’d like to find a husband or wife”, so the first thing to consider is whether you actually want to be married.
After all, if you have no desire to actually commit to anyone, no amount of searching will do you any good.
Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?
After careful consideration, my list is pretty simple: Is Single Open And Honest Educated Flexible/Open Minded – Easily Adapts To Change Has Great Listening And Conflict Resolution Skills Knows What She Wants Female Available – Able To Fit Me Into Her Life Has Compatible Goals Loves And Appreciates Me For Who I Am After I made this list, it only took about a year for me to find what I feel is the perfect person for me.