Are you likely to misinterpret attempts just to be friendly as flirting? Flirting is more complicated than you might first think.By definition, flirting is communicating in a way that signals attraction (Hall, Carter, Cody, and Albright, 2010).You can find out in plenty of time what their motives are.You might just ask what they're looking for and that alone can be a fun conversation, and you can see if what she says adds up.I guess for women, they just have to be on the look out for guys that just want sex. First of all, flirting isn't something you might do with only someone you met cold in a bar.
Who's to say exactly which comment in the exchange was a flirt? So when you say it only works when you initiate contact, I would say you are missing the point because with flirtation it might not be entirely clear who initiated it.
When I say, I initiated it, I mean that since the introduction came from me, I can be reasonably sure that the exchange is sincere.
Of course, I'm still looking for signs that she is just jumping on an opportunity to get something out of me if she knows I'm interested, but, at least I have some control over the exchange.
We’re still left with the puzzle of References Fox, K. SIRC guide to flirting: What social science can tell you about flirting and how to do it. I've always thought of flirting as a two-way process that gradually escalates.
Retrieved from Social Issues Research Centre website: J. So the first flirt is a compliment or joke which provides an opening and implied invitation to respond in kind.