The reason for this is everyone’s looking for the person that’s going to make them happier than anyone else in the world. 1) Clearly, happiness and feelings are crucial, but they aren’t the point.
They’re like the icing on the cake, but not the substance that gives it structure.
On the flipside, there’s the couple that remains “” and chooses to ignore the glaring inconsistencies in their significant other.
They love to think back to the early days of when they fell deep in “like,” believing that when they get married it will somehow go back to the I can’t tell you the last time I spent on the couch making out with my wife for an hour and telling her how incredible she is or how she hung the moon.
We don’t spend time developing a friendship, which ” And sure, it’ll last a while, but those feelings will always fade (in typically 3–6 months).
When those feelings fade, men and women will jump from relationship to relationship to get that next “emotional high,” never truly understanding what commitment and sacrifice really look like.
“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says.
“Eventually, I was dreading getting dinner with them because they couldn’t carry a conversation.” According to new research, Rochkind’s ideas about sexy bikini babes are correct.
What it’s been replaced with is a deep soul bond that says “The sad reality is we’re spending our days getting struck by Cupid, and the glue that holds a relationship together is getting sacrificed for silly-putty. And then if we can ignore the areas of our relationships that need work until we’re engaged, we hope that we can still cram some time in mending the relationship and fixing issues before our fast-approaching nuptials.
Because in friendships we actually spent time building, growing, bonding, and loving the other person in spite of their messiness.
Sadly, we don’t take the time to do the same in dating.
Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.
“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown.