As these ads go offline, we spoke to a 25-year-old man in New York who used Craigslist's personal ads - specifically the casual encounters section - as a way of finding casual sex in his early 20s.
He spoke to us on condition of anonymity, because, well, that's what Craigslist personals were all about. Unlike dating apps that often require being linked to a social media account, on Craigslist you could be nameless and Facebook-less."Most people didn't even have pictures of their faces," our 25-year-old Craigslister says.
You owe it to the person you're seeing to tell them that you're not interested, so you can move on and they can, too.
If your gut says that you're not interested, or if you sense that you would rather be dating someone else, then you'll probably feel better after having a breakup conversation, even though it can be awkward.
Or you could feel like the relationship just didn't really warrant a breakup.
That depends on how long you've been seeing a person."I didn't know what they looked like until I met them." And sometimes he didn't even get to see what they looked like.He estimates that he would answer hundreds of ads, which might net about 10 replies, which might then lead to one in-person interaction. But the encounters were memorable."Usually the person I would meet would be someone unattractive or would have weird tendencies," he says."She was going to have sex with me, but I wasn't allowed to touch her," he recalls.He's not happy with Craigslist's decision, even though he's not using the platform anymore.So do you have to actually break up with someone if you weren't in an official relationship to begin with?Yes, but it's complicated, says Samantha Burns, LMHC, a millennial relationship expert.He has a girlfriend now."There's a lot of ads on there, for sure.But there's a lot of people out there just looking for casual sex and some people find dating apps intimidating."He acknowledges that dating apps have lost a lot of the stigma they used to carry four or five years ago.In one encounter, a woman insisted on having porn blasting the entire time.Another made him put on a blindfold the moment he arrived.