That if we ask for what we need, we'll be rejected.That if we show our true colors, we won't be liked. I think it's the easiest way for her to hide out and avoid any vulnerability. Never, ever reach out," she tells me -- advice that feels more like an ominous command than a loving tip. Her policy continues: "Once a text thread is initiated, the girl should only mirror the guy's behavior." For example, a girl must keep within the subject raised by the guy, and "ask him only the same questions he's asked you." Over drinks last weekend, I shared this (asinine) policy with a guy friend.
Alas, there isn't an "undo" button on a text message. I'm very clear now that acting against my authentic self actually feels way worse than the rejection or disappointment that may have come my way.
This is something that will never change, no matter how much society changes.
Men and woman will always have the instincts that are born into them.
But what relentlessly surfaces -- along with the frustration and impatience and over-analysis and questions ( them? The thought of straight up honesty, for most everyone, is terrifying.
There's this overwhelming fear that if we show our true enthusiasm for someone, we'll lose our power.