Maybe I'm bitter because of my personal experience.Maybe I'm bitter because I still feel scared and vulnerable when I have to disclose to a new partner my herpes, while people who get cold sores don't.When I asked him if he considers his cold sores herpes, he said, "It doesn't matter what I consider it to be. Would he have disclosed his cold sore status to me if I hadn't said I had herpes first?In the same way that he only got a cold sore once, I've only ever had an outbreak once.
A even placed genital herpes second for most social stigma of all STDs (HIV was ranked first).
But by far one of the most frustrating things is hearing people who get cold sores get defensive about how they're better than those of us with "full-blown herpes." Guys, I have news for you.
If you've ever gotten a cold sore on your mouth, you have herpes.
I still brace for That Awkward Call™ months after my hookups end — waiting to hear that I gave someone herpes.
I'm bitter that my friend with the Abreva in his medicine cabinet doesn't feel that same sense of dread every time he sees an old hookup hit up his phone.