There they kneel, holding icons while elders bless them with bread and salt.In some weddings, a procession circles the bride, who carries a staff.Women may be considered potentially unclean ( marime ); in the past a woman had to take care not to brush the man accidentally with her skirts, which could pollute him.This was, however, also a source of female power, for a woman could avenge herself on a man by lifting her skirts before or over him.
Among rural and nomadic groups, extended families may stay together, living in adjoining houses.Gold, especially, is prized as a gift between generations. Gypsy families prefer not to turn their children over to day-care centers, although urban women, like other Soviet women who work outside the home, may do so.Women are responsible for most child care, but often they do not care for the children alone; in the country relatives are always nearby, and in the city visits are frequent.The prime loyalty is to the family: Roma may consider other nationalities to be insufficiently family-oriented.Training in skills begins quite early, and children help their parents in whatever is the family occupation, be it dancing, carpentry, or something else.These are attributes they learn to appreciate early in their childhood.Religion plays an important role in the life of the Romanian people. Their religion was suppressed for more than 20 years under communism (Nicolae Ceausescu’s dictatorship).Romani is learned at home, Russian outside the home.There may be conflicts between Romani and Russian (and formerly, Soviet) values, especially for those who receive more schooling. Rom (man) and romni (woman) also mean "husband" and "wife." Roma avoid Soviet ceremonies and have their own interesting wedding ceremonies, which are strictly observed, even in big cities. On this day there is a mock negotiation of bride-price, or sometimes a mock abduction: the groom's friends and family storm the bride's home, which is barricaded by the bride's family.These ceremonies blend Orthodox wedding ritual and Gypsy custom. The bride and groom arrive separately at the church; after they have been "crowned," they travel together to the reception.